Get Your Ex To Come Back What Works And What Does Not
You need to understand the difference between what works and what does not if you want to get your ex to come back. There are people that will argue that any strategy can be successful given the right circumstances. Technically, that is correct. However, are you interested in technicalities if some strategies practically work just once in several lifetimes? Chances are you are not and that is why we need to clearly divide the different approaches into those that work and those that do not.
The best approach to take is by giving your ex some time and space. Remember that regardless of who broke up with whom, your ex is going to need some time in order to get over the breakup itself. They are going to need time and space from you. At this point, if you continue to see them often, you risk alienating them even further and dooming your chances of ever getting back together with them.
Your ex will eventually get over the breakup. At that point, you can start to build your relationship with them again. It is at this point that the successful strategies can diverge. There is the aggressive strategy and the conservative one from this point.
The aggressive strategy calls for you to really ramp things up and gamble on them not really being committed to the breakup. You can push them a bit harder with the aggressive strategy, but you still need to walk the line in order to make sure that you do not overdo things. If you do, you risk the strategy backfiring and you losing your ex both as a potential lover and as a potential friend.
Many people are interested in staying friends with their ex even if they can not get them to come back. If you want to make sure that your ex is your friend if you can not get your ex to come back, the conservative strategy is the one for you to take. This involves slowly letting the relationship build and then going from good friends to lovers when the opportunity presents itself. Do not push your ex and do not push yourself. You will in time become as friends that you can treasure until the opportune moment comes.
This strategy is often less successful at getting back to a romantic relationship than the aggressive one because the opportunities for change are fewer when you are being conservative. However, it does not have the same blow back that the aggressive one has and therefore is better overall for making sure that you maintain some kind of positive relationship with your ex, even if that relationship is non-romantic in nature.
The decision that you finally make will have a lot to do with the priorities that you have. If you definitely want your ex back romantically and do not care about their friendship, you are more likely to go aggressive. If you want to preserve some kind of relationship with them at all costs, conservative is the obvious choice.