Wednesday, August 17, 2011

How to get my Wife To Love Me Again

It is a tough question you have been asking yourself for a while now. . . "How to get my wife to love me again?"

There are many avenues that need to be explored when coming up with an answer to your question and of course the answers depend on your specific situation and circumstances. But there are some basic strategies that any man can apply towards gaining his wife's love back.

You need to figure out why your wife has stopped loving you.

Here are some common reasons for your wife stop loving you.

The first reason - I've lost my wife's love because I had an affair and she found out.

The second reason - is my wife found someone new that she feels is better than me.

The third reason - I have not stuck to my promises and agreements. I promised her that I would change my attitude or some of the things that annoy her but I have not done so. This has lead to her disappointment and loss of hope on her part.

The forth reason - I neglected my wife in her eyes. I didn't give her the love and attention she needed.

The fifth Reason - I tried to control everything she did. I did not allow my wife enough freedom and space to do what she wanted.

Once you have identified, you can start finding solution to your problem. Many marriages that fail do so because the real problems are not being understood. Communication is a huge part of making the marriage work. Men think differently than women so even if you think you know how your wife feels (because that's the way you feel), chances are you probably don't. So you need to talk to her.

Without the right communication, it is really hard to resolve and kind of conflict, big or small. The right kind of communication will allow your relationship to start and later give your wife the opportunity to share her dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with you.

If your wife has accepted to get back with you again, do not just go back to what was not working. Keep things interesting, do little things together and show her how much you love and appreciate her present.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

How To handle Feeling of Breaking Up

Most couples split for silly reasons. With some good communication they could overcome their problems and be happy.

You need to decide if you really want to get back with this person. Forget about what you want for a moment and concentrate on what you would like to do with your relationship. Once you are certain, you will be much more comfortable to talk about asking your partner to give you another chance.

If you decide that you do not want to get back with your ex partner you should have no problem getting over the break up. But I do not think you are willing to let that relationship go, do you?

You need to set up a meeting with your ex to discuss your future. Apologize for anything that went wrong, whether it was your fault or not; and agree to put the past aside. Yes you need to resolve your issues but you do not need to dwell on them.

Focus on the positives. Why should the two of you be together? Talk about the great times you have had, the history you share, the sexual attraction that burns between you and hopefully you will be celebrating getting back together very soon.

It may take a couple of meetings but it will be worth it. If you had a great relationship it is worth fighting for. Finding someone special to love who loves you in return is not easy and should not be given up lightly. Add to that a shared history, family and children and you will soon realize, that you belong together.

If there was a reason for your breakup, perhaps one of you had an affair; it does not need to spell the end. Affairs always happen for a reason. Perhaps you were not paying your partner any or enough attention. Perhaps they felt taken for granted. Or it could be something as simple as too many drinks at the Christmas/office party that end up with a flick with one of your co-employee.

I know that it is not easy to accept your partner sleeping with someone else; but you can get over it. If you still love this person and want him in your life, go to several counseling and seek help to work through your feelings. You may find that you cannot live with the deceit and betrayal and decide to split up after all. But you could also decide that by bringing all the problems into the open, you can resolve them and go forward with a much stronger relationship. You just need to approach the situation with an open mind.

Having someone you love in your life is far too important to let it go over something trivial or in some cases something very hurtful. So forget about trying to improve the "breakup recovery" and concentrate on getting your partnership back on track.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

How To Overcome Breakup

You might find these helpful on overcoming a breakup:

1) Do not be too hard on yourself:

While you may feel low and unloved, the end of a relationship does not have to mean you stay on your own forever. The next person to walk through the door might be your lucky lover. In the meantime do things that will make you happy. If you wanted to see some shows and films that you would love to see, grab some friends and head out for the evening.

2) Do not show your emotion as being desperate:

Desperation is not an attractive emotion in anyone. If you want your ex to take you back, you need to appear what they are missing. Do not be someone who is miserable all the time. They want the person they originally fell in love with.

Despite of how you are feeling you always need to show your best in public. Dress nicely so you look great and above all have a good smile on your face. Even if you feel like you are going to die from the pain, you never know when you will meet your ex or a mutual friend, so act happy, even if it is only a performance.

3) Move On with your life:

Feeling miserable after a break up is natural but do not dwell in self pity, you generally end up feeling worse. There is more to life than looking behind to your chattered dream, so get out there and start enjoying yourself. You may have to pretend for a while but soon you will find that you are actually having fun again.

4) Do not be carried way and think what went wrong:

We learn from our mistakes but the breakup may not have been your fault. It could simply be that the other person got scared of commitment. If you get in contact , agree to meet for a drink and see how things go. Be polite and listen to what have to be said. If they want you back, do not be too eager, but agree to see how it goes.

If you were the one who finished things, but now realize you made a mistake, tell your ex. They are not mind readers and they would not know you want to rekindle your love affair unless you tell them.

Men and women often get things wrong as we see life so differently. Sometimes we have to be apart from our partner before we realize the true value of one another. Often a break and a little communication goes a long way to overcoming a breakup and getting back together.

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Ways of Avoiding Long Term Relationship Breakup

Every relationship experiences a rough edge but how can you avoid a long term breakup?

We sometimes can take our partners for granted. Our daily life often gets in the way and we are inclined to think our spouse will understand. But that is not always the case. You may wonder where he/she comes on your list of priorities. He or she may feel neglected and if someone else comes along that pays them some attention and makes them feel important, they will be tempted.

Why not make an arrangement one night to surprise your partner . Make an effort to arrange a babysitter if you have children. If money is tight put the kids to bed early and cook your partner a nice dinner. Add some candles and flowers and switch off the TV. Do not talk about money issues or your family. The only conversation allowed is the type you would normally have on a date night. Pretend you do not know each other. Ask your other half to tell you something about themselves, after which you will divulge a secret.

When you have been together for a long time, it can get a little dull in the bedroom. Being intimate is the glue that holds couples together. It is not all about sex but holding hands, cuddling and being affectionate.

Do not ignore it as it can lead to feelings of anxiety and despair on both sides. But you cannot pressure the other person either. Why not make it a game. Both of you have to make a list of all the things you would like to do/have done to each other. Each person gets a turn having one item on their list. She may want you to run her a nice bath and allow her to soak for an hour. Light candles to add romantic atmosphere.

Rediscover the passion that brought you together in the first place. Most couples do not get involved in fantastic conversation. But when you have shared what seems to be a lifetime, the roaring flames of desire may now resemble a smoldering ember. It is easy to relight those smoldering embers, you just need a little practice!

Couple that laugh together, share their inner most thoughts and feelings and make time for one another, sharing their twilight years. Life is not a bed of roses but it is a lot more fun when you share it with someone you love. You should avoid that long term relationship breakup as much as you can.